IF i see a tourist here i try english, i do not expect that someone visiting for a few weeks learns the language more than "wheres the trainstation please?"

Regarding behaviour theres some standards worldwide acceptable, but not to the stretch it is in Japan, one of the reason i canceled my plans visiting there, i always try to adapt but i would not feel comfortable where i am expected to act like someone born there to fit in".

There is polite and there is fitting perfectly into the social norms, the second is over the top.

I traveled so far to more than 50 countries without any trouble but what i read about Japan put me of, seriously.