thank you,i just want to say that money was never an issue in our relationship.when we were living together in japan for 2 1/2 years,the main reason he asked me to go home is so that i can rest from working because he cannot take care of me 24/7 as i was frequently in out of hospital due to my asthma.he was planning to have his own business after he retire and this was his last message to me last march 6,2011.that he was busy. just like that and the only time i hear from him is when he send me money.do you think this is the only reason? i really dont know what's on his mind...by the way,he visit me once a year.but now,maybe he's not coming....i love him so much.i always tell him.