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i am really confused right now my japanese boyfriend has been avoiding me for 3 months now.we've been together for 5andhalf years.everything was great then suddenly he stopped communicating.since we are separated by distance for 3 years,everyday we go on line and chat.just exactly as he retired from work,he also stopped our communication.although he still sends me financial help in due time, he only email me to inform that he sent money.although i try hard to ask him why,he never answer my questions.but he always say in his e-mail "ganbatte kudasai"..does he still love me? i really don't understand why ikinari? i am so lost and broken hearted. i love him so much.please advise me what should i do?

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thank you for replying, i appreciate it very much,giving me some positive thoughts about my problem.perhaps you are right,maybe i should focus on a wider perspective of what is really going on.and try to understand that we are of different cultures.i should let time pass by,maybe he is still there for me.i miss him so much.i honestly love him.thank you...

What I can say is that keeping a relationship trough internet is difficult. Being separated....with distance between is just a way your heart to die slowly.

I suppose your beloved one has a reason for not answering your questions. Don't loose heart.

You say: "just exactly as he retired from work,he also stopped our communication"

Well you should know that pensions/retired pay/ in Japan is extreemly low. This is the main reason for the high rate of suicides.
Maybe your boyfriend still sends you money from his savings or sth like this. Maybe he thinks that when his savings end or when he comes to a point when he can't send you money anymore you will not need him. SO IF you LOVE him then you should talk to him and tell it to him. If you have the opportunity to take a plane and go to him-do it.

Maybe you both need to talk...you know sometimes even one or two words are enough.

Good luck and all the best!!

thank you,i just want to say that money was never an issue in our relationship.when we were living together in japan for 2 1/2 years,the main reason he asked me to go home is so that i can rest from working because he cannot take care of me 24/7 as i was frequently in out of hospital due to my asthma.he was planning to have his own business after he retire and this was his last message to me last march 6,2011.that he was busy. just like that and the only time i hear from him is when he send me money.do you think this is the only reason? i really dont know what's on his mind...by the way,he visit me once a year.but now,maybe he's not coming....i love him so much.i always tell him.