no way, your post was really interesting. I guess it does explain somewhat the rationality about the suspiciously (to a westener) 2D relationships in asian countries.

I just hope that when i go to work there (got an ESL job starting in Sept) I can manage to swing some over to my side, so I can have some real connections and friendships (or is that me just being an arrogant foreigner? lol). it's just that i'll have no family there, so who am i supposed to depend on instead then? and i don't want to be one of those foreigners who doesn't mingle with the natives and just hangs out with the other english speaking people